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I Believe in the Connections Made Over Dessert

Written By: Emily Elliott


Whether spooning from the same Ben and Jerry’s pint or passing a gourmet selection, dessert creates an opportunity for connection between my family and I as well as my closest friends and I. Dessert allows my family to share the enjoyment of the same treat while remembering that at the end of the day we return to each other. During our “pass-the-plate” tradition, my friends and I indulge in each other’s personalities and tastes.

Dinner has never been a time for my family to come together. In fact, most nights we scatter ourselves throughout the kitchen, sitting at the counter or table while eating over textbooks and emails. Dessert, however, arrives at a time late enough in the evening that doesn’t conflict with any schedules. My six family members and I gather on the family room couch and allow the curves of the cushions to hug our bodies together as we crowd over the selection of desserts splayed across the coffee table. No matter our whereabouts for dinner, we return home for dessert because it is the only opportunity throughout the day that we remove ourselves from the dysfunctional world and come together to act as a functioning family. While dipping into the same fruit tart, my family and I share each other’s company and bliss. The nights filled with strawberry shortcake outlast the spaghetti and breadsticks served at the dinner table because dessert provides a common ground for my family to reunite on. Without any flaws or vegetables to push aside, dessert tops the night off with a spoonful of whipped cream.

The influence of dessert not only shapes the connections made with my family, but also those made with my best friends. The conversations of life’s “what if’s” and “remember when’s” formed over dessert have since evolved into our “pass-the-plate” tradition. With four indecisive best friends, settling on one dessert seems nearly impossible. Naturally, we select one delicacy each. Red velvet cake, lemon meringue pie, New York style cheesecake, and the triple layer chocolate wave; take one bite and pass it on. Katie orders a slice of red velvet cake, elegant and always the center of attention. I decide on the lemon meringue pie for its unexpected, yet satisfying tang. Simple and classic New York style cheesecake suits Elizabeth the best. The triple chocolate wave cake defines Jennifer for its overbearing richness. Through our desserts, our personalities manifest themselves. When we pass our plates, in a sense, we pass ourselves. Picky eaters and vegetarian taste buds limit our dinner selections past the point of sharing. During dessert, however, our differences in taste compliment each other much like how our personalities fit well together.

I believe in the connections made over dessert. The inconvenient timing of dinner keeps my family from dining, while my friend’s selective tastes prevent us from sharing our dinner selections; however, dessert delights both my family and my friends as it facilitates the coming together of my family nightly and causes my friends and I to pass our plates and essentially ourselves.

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